-why is it I don't respect you? If I respected you, I shouldn't talk to you without shame, should I?

Any person we respect is someone autonomous and masterly, with his own boundaries and opinions, to whom we can and cannot say certain things because we know they will react and give us arguments.

Imagine you meet someone who accepts everything, who listens to you; that person lets others flow through him. That someone sets no barriers, and insists on no strict boundaries between the 'him' and an opponent, 'you'. Does that mean some self-loss? loss of identity and ego? In our society, we dread any self-loss; instead it's a gift we should welcome because it frees us from doubt and it is our chance for rebirth. If one attains perfect self-forgetfulness in the love of your neighbor, then that that person will believe without doubt, and no doubt can possibly enter his soul. Self-forgetfulness, liberation from our own ego and its clamorous demands, is the gift that love gives us. Love brings a voiding of our ego, which allows us to fill it anew. Dare I say that unless, one's loving attains to this, one has no chance for renewal. Is it not what Christ meant when he said unless you die, you cannot be reborn or begin anew?